Everyday I come
into contact with people who have had a damaging upset that ruins
their lives, and I notice that sometimes they are not even aware
of it. Often the pain has become buried in their unconscious; or
if they are aware of it, they choose to deny any power to fight
and deal with it. Yet unless they seek some form of psychic healing,
this energy fixed in their mind is a continual drain on their vitality.
It is a parasite to their life-force.
The first step to true self-help is willing to be candid, notice
what hurts, and find the therapy that is necessary to remove the
Those who do this will find that their whole life will change for
the better. All the things that seemed impossible before suddenly
become possible. They realize that they need not be amongst the
walking wounded because help is near at hand. All they have to do
is ask for it.
Most people deny or push back the events that hurt them, and when
they do this, they choose the path of denial and unhappiness.
They are burdened not by what actually happened, but by how they
cling to their story of hurt. If it has been awful enough, they
even numb out and blank out the person or persons who were responsible.
Their persecutor has indeed won over them; not only then, but also
in the now. Their persecutor's malice not only disempowered them
in the past, but continues to weaken them.
Often victims think that revenge is a desirable option and they
feel that they might draw some satisfaction if they could strike
out and hurt as they have been hurt, but often the persecutor is
no longer available, and sometimes may even have died a long time
Many different people rank among those who seek revenge, but because
the persecutor is no longer available, they act out their rage on
others who had nothing to do with their abuse.
Almost everybody has been tormented at one time or another. Those
who are psychologically healthy have taken the effort to seek and
The cycle of your unhappiness can only stop when you decide that
it is time to get your power back Until you make this decision,
you will forever be persecuted, because your wounded psyche will
continue to do your tormentors work.
Hell, in fact, is never letting the wound heal, but opening it up
afresh when thought of your torment comes to mind. And a deeper
hell is not even allowing the pain to reach consciousness but express
itself through tormented behaviour.
How do you let it go? That is the task of skilled Psycho-therapy.
All psychological imbalances, whether mild, as in a neurosis, or
chronic, as in a full blown psychosis, arise from embracing victimhood.
Unless a time comes when you confront your inner tormentors, no
self-help course of study can help you "unleash the demon within."
Knowledge is not enough; emotional catharsis is a necessity. Even
this article can do nothing for you; except help point you in the
right direction; it is what you do with it that makes a difference.
Do you confront your past, and find a healer? Or do you live with
it, and continue along the paths of least promise?
We are always choosing, even when we choose not to choose.
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